Friday, March 11, 2011

Sometimes you just have to throw caution to the wind and go with what your heart is telling you.

Maybe this whole crazy mess of moving to Sweden was to bring me to my soulmate?  I feel like every cell is more alive when I am around him, I'm buzzed and on a sugar high where you just crack up all the time at nothing because just being alive makes you smile and laugh.

I know it's not smart.  I know I have important and scary and horrible sh*t that I need to deal with, but just for right now, I need to be with him or the world will fall off its orbit and nothing will be worth it.  Because isn't being alive about being in love?

I'm not going to fight The Ex on anything, I don't care.  No amount of money or half our house back in the US or even this apartment is worth trouble and stress and strife.  I'm a strong independent woman and I can support myself - check me out, I guess I'm more Swedish than I thought!!  I don't need a penny from him, I have my new opportunities and I have love and health and happiness.  And he can just take a long walk off a short cliff.


Ulrika said...

You go girl!

BB13 said...

I'm so happy for you. I'm glad it works with Eric for now.
You'll be an independent woman and one day he'll beg you to be allowed to come back to you because his mistress can't cut it. But for now you have to kick his ass.
Set-up your new life in Stockholm and you'll see it will make you happy one day.

Anonymous said...

Dear dear you,

Please try to get what belongs to you. One day you will look back and regret. It is woth fighting! Believe me, And I'm happy you are able to find all the positive things in your life. That gives you strength.

Good luck!

Zola24 said...

So glad you are happy, you Go Girl, yay, BUT do fight your ex for every last cent, (give the proceeds to charity if you so wish), just make sure your ex pays. You are in a good place now but remember how you felt when you thought you were meeting for a reconciliation - wipe the smile off his self-satisfied face. No need to wallow in vengeance, just deal with the letters with a smile - there's gonna be no raining on your parade.
Enjoy every moment with Erik.

lv & xx's
(no need for 'virtual' hugs this time)

Anonymous said...

I did what you are about to do. I didnt claim what the law entitles me to in the divorce. I should have followed the law.
The law is there for a reason and it is to stop someone from doing what you are about to do.

It feels awful but get a lawyer who fights your battle. Thats what they are there for just as you go to a dentist if you need to fix your teeth and not try to fix them yourself.
A Familje rätts advokat is what you are looking for.
Stay strong.

OhioGirl said...

Thank you everybody! I am listening to all of your advice and can't tell you how much I appreciate your concern even if I don't respond right away!

Polly Dixon said...

Holy Crap, lady! I feel you. Things I have yet to blog about: My ex left me (after 5 1/2 years)3 months before our wedding, walked out of our place and into my girlfriend's house. Hasn't left yet. He turned crazy during the breakup and into someone I didn't know. Truth: Break ups suck but seriously, STAND YOUR GROUND. Take what is yours...stand up for yourself. In the end, you will feel much better. Letting him get it all equates to you giving up. . .not being an independent woman. If you handle yourself elegantly, calmly and with resolve, it makes it so much worse for him. He won't know what to do. I promise.

On another note, you are embarking on the best adventure of your life! That's what I'm doing in Los Angeles! Love it.