Monday, January 9, 2012

So okay.....

First off I need to make it clear that my marriage vows meant a lot to me.  Unlike some people I could mention

... when I got married, it was for keeps.  It was til death do us part, not until you screw up do us part, or, until we move to a new country and everything gets scary do us part, or, until I can't help but notice a viking sex god personal trainer looking at me a certain way do us part.

So anyway.  Judge if you want but just remember that people have to live the way they think is right, and my right way was to give my marriage all the shot I could give it.

Well, until it all went to shit again.

He asked me not to blog -- no scratch that, he TOLD me not to blog about it and I can't tell you how good it feels that the day after he packed his bags here I am! 

DON'T tell me what to do Mr.  Don't tell me that me sharing my thoughts on our little move to Sweden is what put you under pressure that you acted out.  Please!  Because you just had no choice to boink your secretary because I was blogging?  Uhhuhh. 

Which, I am typing this now and it's crazy.  I am reading the words I am typing and I'm like - what?  Please!  I believed this guy even for a second?  This A-HOLE who walked out on me and left me as alone as any human being could be in a strange country.

But you know what?  I did.  I felt bad.  I stepped up and I took responsibility for what he said hurt him and put our marriage on the course to dunzo and suddenly it's like the storm clouds have cleared and I'm like WHAT?  I wrote a little blog and maybe complained a tiny bit about the MAJOR LIFE CHANGE you forced me to take on, and you fell into the arms of however many Swedish twinkies but sure, we're even.  I need to apologize to you as much as you need to apologize to me, you know what, let me do it a little bit more because as the woman in this little equation, of course it's up to me to make things good again, amiright?   I have ovaries and a hoo-hah and that means I take the whole responsibility for making things good.


This is not a one post story.  I need to take a walk (oh, it's minus 7 right now, btw.  Awesome) and take a minute and take a breath and I'll be back with more gory details.


Kara said...

I know this is a horrible story, but you do make me laugh the way you put things! Take your time, we will be here when you are ready to share more!

BB13 said...

I'm sorry but maybe I'm lacking the compassion here. Major facepalm. Did you really expect your husband to change in any way? I'm all for working on your relationship/marriage but what he did is a no-go.
The first hint would've been that he told you to stop blogging. What is he expecting you to do then? Sitting at home waiting for him returning after he's done banging another secretary? And please, he cheated once he'll do it again. Get rid of him!
Erik sounded way more sympathetic and if you open up to the Swedish way of leading a relationship you might find another love. If he likes you enough he'll make it work. Just saying.

Leeann @ Join the Gossip said...

Well since none of us know your exact situation, I am not going to judge you like others may...

I will say that as long as you're doing what's best for YOU, the good for you! Best of luck :)

Breanna said...

Thanks for the sweet comment on my blog! I am one of your new followers! :)

As for this post - girl, I am so sorry! I hope things get better for you very soon!

OhioGirl said...

Thank you those of you for your compassion and understanding that only I can live MY life. I never said I get it right all the time I'm not perfect like anybody else and if you knew Mr Ex you might be a little bit more understanding.

OhioGirl said...

And also welcome Breanna! Hope you stick around - it can be a bumpy ride but not boring anyway I hope!